Hey guys! So this is a topic near and dear to my heart. I know from personal experience these days happen and they aren’t fun. The mornings where you look in the mirror and there seems to be nothing about you that’s right, all those mean things that you think people say about you are flying through your mind. You feel gross and turn away from the mirror in self-disgust. I wish so desperately these days didn’t happen for anyone, but hopefully the next time it happens to you, you’ll be more prepared. I know for some it might seem silly to write about this but if one of these ideas can kinda help someone than I’m happy.
#1: Get some love!
I’m talking about talking, calling or texting people who love you. I cannot tell you what a big difference it has made to be able to reach out to people and just let them know I’m struggling. Whether it’s your mom, sister, boyfriend, small group (shoutout to mine because you’re awesome), or friend, there’s something about people that care about you for so many more reasons than how you look that lifts you up. BE MINDFUL OF WHO YOU TEXT! The last thing that will help is a reenactment of the Mean Girls scene where they’re each complaining about themselves -> 🙅🏼 NO! Not what you need. Also don’t reach out to people that will just compliment you or disregard how you’re feeling. The point is to begin seeing how much more you are than you’re appearance! So go to people who know how great you are on the inside..which leads to my next point…
#2: Find something you’re proud of.
I PROMISE you there is something about you that is great. (I’m a firm believer that there is something good about everyone.) Even if you can only find one thing, recognize it and try to focus on it. Try to pick something that is a characteristic or skill, something that isn’t going to change. Personally this one is really hard for me, but usually someone from point number one will remind me of something that I can focus on.
#3: Open your Bible and get on your knees.
This should really be number one but sometimes it’s hard to reach out to someone that you can’t physically hear or see or feel. But ultimately if you want true healing you have to turn to the only one who can. We were never meant to be good enough, thats why we have Jesus! God will take us exactly as we are. Right now. No makeup. Messy hair. Zit cream on and unshaved legs. Just rest in knowing you’re everything He wants right now. Here are some of my favorite verses, there’s tons of them but here’s just a few:
Psalm 139:14 1 Sam 16:7 Luke 1:45 Psalm 9:1 Song of Solomon 4:7
#4: Ask for help!
I certainly don’t know everything there is to know about dealing with a bad body image but there are so many wonderful Christian women who have written about it! The author of one of my favorite books wrote this blog post. Best quote in the whole thing?
“The world will say they will love you if you are beautiful — but the truth is you are beautiful because you are loved.”
Drop the mic 🎤. It’s short and oh so powerful. Also if you’re in need of a good cry song “Love Me” by JJ Heller will get those therapeutic tears flowin’.
#5: Take care of yourself!
This is different for everyone but for me this means getting in some exercise and eating a good meal. Luckily for me my favorite meal is breakfast so an egg and veggie omelet usually starts to cheer me up! (Insert Princess Diaries II quote: “And remember to always have your eggs sunny side up” 😂).
#6: Be a social caterpillar.
Social media is great for a lot of things but one thing it definitely is NOT good for is boosting your body image. It’s so easy to compare yourself to those women you see on Instagram and Pinterest. So turn it off for the day, be a social butterfly tomorrow. I promise nothing Earth shattering will happen when you’re away…and if it does I think someone would probably call you. Also remember that acknowledging her beauty does NOT take away from your own!
#7 It ain’t just you.
I mean this two ways. First, you aren’t the only one struggling with this, sadly it’s become more uncommon to not struggle with it than to. Regardless of how beautiful you really are, and how much you can know you are loved, these days are still bound to happen. Just be ready for them and know that they will end! Secondly, it ain’t just you in this world and it ain’t all about you. Try to spend some time focusing on others and their needs and you’ll find that you’ll have less time to spend picking on yourself.
That’s it! Whew! Sorry that was a long one but like I said I know from personal experience how tough those days can be. And if you’re debating your worth, news flash you were bought for a price 💰 (1 Cor 7:23)…and it was the same exact price as everyone else, we’re all the same in God’s book.
xoxo, the blonde